Strangeness in Human Behavior: The Illusions, Determinism, and Entitlement
Human behavior can be perplexing, especially when we encounter situations where individuals treat us with kindness and respect despite our bad experiences with them, or when we see someone who has faced a tough life using their grievances to be vindictive. This article delves into three key aspects of human behavior—illusions, determinism, and entitlement—that help explain these often confusing behaviors.
Living in Illusions
Beliefs and perceptions often masquerade as truths, but many of these are nothing more than illusions. People frequently hold onto beliefs that are difficult to prove or quantify, yet these illusory beliefs serve as comforting fantasies. We also see the formation of group illusions where individuals join tribes or communities that share similar beliefs or perceptions.
The difference between an illusion and a delusion lies in social acceptance and legality. While illusions are widely accepted and socially normative, delusions are considered irrational and sometimes delinquent. It is vital to embrace and participate in common illusions, as doing so with others can protect you from being marginalized or perceived as eccentric.
The Determinism Conundrum
The human fear of the unknown and the indeterminate plays a significant role in our behavior, especially when we perceive the world as deterministic. People who speak with certainty and conviction often appear detached or may even be lying to themselves or to others.
Science continuously expands our understanding of the brain and human perception. There are still many phenomena that remain unexplained, and our knowledge of how we think, feel, and perceive is constantly evolving. When we describe things we don't fully understand using overly precise language, we create a detachment that can be misleading or manipulative.
Those who speak about determinism for others are often attempting to control or manipulate situations, live in denial, or may have an ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). Such language can be a red flag that someone may have an underlying psychological or cognitive issue.
The Entitled to Explain Attitude
When we encounter something we don't understand, we may label it and then start judging and criticizing it. This behavior often stems from a lack of empathy, a low theory of mind, and a difficulty in handling ambiguity.
Blaming others for our lack of understanding is not constructive and reveals a lack of personal responsibility. If you don't grasp a concept, it is likely due to a lack of knowledge or comprehension, not someone else's fault. Asking for clarification is much more productive than making derogatory comments or labeling someone as 'crazy.'
Understanding and accepting our cognitive limitations can help us approach others with empathy and avoid unnecessary judgment. Remember, everyone has their own way of processing information, and it is not our job to define everything for others.
By examining our own behavior through these lenses, we can gain a better understanding of why people act the way they do and how we can improve our interactions with them. Embracing the complexity and uncertainty of human behavior can lead to more compassionate and meaningful connections with others.