Respect in Uniform: Military Service Incidents and Reflections

Throughout my military service, I have encountered several instances that tested the boundaries of respect and professionalism. Each experience provided me with a unique perspective on what it truly means to wear a uniform and serve with honor and dignity.

The McDonald's Incident

During the period shortly before the 9/11 attacks, I found myself in a challenging situation at a McDonald's. As I entered the restaurant, I heard someone shout, "Hey baby killer!" This individual, presumably angered by my military uniform, chose to express their disrespect from the comfort of their car. While the one who hurled the insult prided themselves on the phrase's apparent courage, I found it to be nothing more than cowardice. True respect and valor come from facing one's challenges head-on rather than relying on degrading language and anonymity.

VA Hospital Incident

Another memorable experience occurred when I, in uniform, walked across a VA hospital's parking lot. A call was made to the police, with the impression that I was a “scary man in camouflage.” Although I was unarmed and carrying nothing, I was met by a policeman who, despite the situation, was clearly embarrassed. This interaction highlighted the immediate stigma attached to those in uniform, even when not engaged in any threatening behavior. The caller's action seemed disrespectful, as they publicly embarrassed me without a proper understanding of my role.

ILANG Training Course Experience

During a training course at Sheppard AFB, the 1st Sergeant gave an inspection of the Temporary Duty Quarters. Even though I had recently gotten a haircut at the base barber, I was instructed to get another one. This occurred less than three days post-haircut, highlighting a hypercritical attitude towards maintaining uniform appearance and military readiness. Such overhaulin requirements can be disrespectful and counterproductive to the overall mission and discipline.

Article 32 Hearing Experience

My involvement in Article 32 Hearings, which can precede Courts Martial, NJPs (Non-Judicial Punishments), and Board of Review hearings, was no stranger to me. One hearing in particular involved a sailor who had intentionally maimed his left eye after being dropped from Electronics Technician "A" School. During this challenging time, I encountered a particularly unprofessional moment during the course of my investigation. Upon arriving at the hearing room, I noticed a Lieutenant Junior Grade (LJG) in a uniform new enough to be unflattering, suggesting a fresh intake into a high-pressure role.

The case was complicated: the sailor's father worked for a Congressman, and there was an attempt to drop the case. I faced pressure from the defense counsel, who became increasingly aggressive, questioning my ability and credentials. His line of questioning was not only disrespectful but also distracted from the core issues at hand. My response highlighted my experience and training while also addressing his tone and methods. Despite the emotional and professional pressure, I remained focused on the objective and integrity of the proceedings.

Conclusion

These incidents serve as a stark reminder of the importance of respect and professionalism, especially when in uniform. They also highlight the challenges faced by military personnel in maintaining their integrity and mission focus, even in the face of adversity and ingrained prejudices. True respect comes from recognizing the sacrifices and dedication of those who serve, both at the frontlines and in the daily demands of their duties.

Keywords: Military uniform, Respect in service, Military life experiences