How Can a Man Ask His Wife to Help Him Be a Better Person?

This is a great question. As a married man of twenty years, I hope I can effectively answer it for you. Here’s my advice on how to navigate this important conversation and support each other along the way.

Listen to Him

While men are wired differently when it comes to communication, they still need your support. When he needs to vent, whether it's about his favorite football team losing or other frustrations, it’s important to be there for him. Creating a safe space for him to express his feelings can help him feel more understood and connected to you.

Be Aware of His Needs

Physical needs are real and should not be overlooked. Guys are often more focused on these needs, and there are many statistics supporting this. If you can satisfy his physical needs, he is likely to be more productive, ambitious, and happier. This will naturally lead to him becoming a better all-around person.

Support Him Spiritually

Praying together can strengthen your bond and bring you closer to God. Don't underestimate the power of prayer. If you're both on the same path spiritually, you're more likely to stay together. Encourage each other in your faith and continue to grow together.

Let Him Be a Guy

It’s essential to allow him to have "guy time" with his friends. This one-on-one time can help him stay connected to his masculine energy and release stress. Support him in fostering these friendships and encourage him to participate in activities that he enjoys.

Most wives would be thrilled to hear, "Dear, I want to be a better person. Can you help me? Here’s what I’d like you to do." Be proactive and initiate the conversation. Communicate openly and honestly about what you both need from each other. Encourage each other to set personal goals and support each other in achieving them.

If you find it challenging to navigate these conversations alone, consider seeking the assistance of a counselor in your area. They can provide professional guidance and help you understand what’s going on in your relationship. Together, you can work on improving and strengthening your bond.

Engage in a heartfelt conversation. Set a morning aside where you both can have a cup of coffee or hot tea. Express your love and ask her if there are any areas where she might need help around the house. Don't be surprised if she doesn't have an immediate idea. As the day progresses, she will start to think about things that make her day stressful, and she may mention them to you.

Here are some ideas that might help:

Pray together and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you both in God’s will and purpose. Encourage each other to develop your talents and live as servants like Jesus. Seek to understand the impact of "Me, Myself, and I" on marriage, the church, and the workplace. Remember that God says, 'I will perfect that which concerned thee.' (Psalms 138:5)

God bless.
The awareness and support from your wife can make a significant difference in your personal growth and help strengthen your relationship.