Etiquette for Dining and Drinking at the Bar Counter

The proper etiquette for sitting, eating, and drinking at a bar counter top is as simple as observing normal good manners. Whether you decide to perch on a bar stool or sit on a velvet sofa, the key is to maintain basic civilities. Avoid rude behaviors such as grabbing, gobbling, and chewing with your mouth open. These are all basic courtesies that people typically uphold without a second thought.

Sitting at a Bar

Sitting at a bar can be perfectly fine for casual socializing, but it's not ideal if you are on a date. Both parties will be constantly distracted by the activity behind the bar. Most bars tend to be noisy, making conversation difficult. However, there are some guidelines to consider:

Sit in a manner that is comfortable for you and the other person: If she is left-handed, sit to her right. If you are left-handed, sit to her left. This can create a more natural conversation angle. Avoid physical contact with the bar: Don’t put your hands on the bar or rest your elbows on it. You just don’t know how clean it is and it will almost always have recently had something spilled on it and been poorly cleaned. A better bar will put down a napkin or a placemat if you are going to be eating.

Eating at a Bar

It can be challenging to hold a conversation while eating because you are not facing each other. Opt for meals that don’t require cutting with a knife so you can focus more on her. Additionally, choose smaller size entrees to avoid stuffing yourself in front of her.

Drinking at a Bar

Moderation is key when it comes to drinking, especially on a date. Limit yourself to two drinks. Have a drink, then have some water. Repeat this process to stay balanced. Avoid overindulging in beer, as it can lead to frequent trips to the bathroom. Choose drinks that match what she is ordering, such as cocktails or wine. If you don’t usually enjoy wine, take the opportunity to learn to like it.

Social Dynamics at the Bar

Because you are sitting in a noisy bar and not facing each other, deep conversations are unlikely to happen. Keep the conversation light by discussing current events that you have been studying before the date. Don’t linger at the bar. Eat, have your two drinks, and take her somewhere else for dessert if you want a second date.

Maintaining Politeness in a Social Setting

Remember to acknowledge others who are sitting nearby but avoid imposing on them. If it’s a sports bar, be mindful of the noise levels and refrain from getting too rowdy.

By following these simple etiquette tips, you can ensure a pleasant and respectful dining and drinking experience at the bar, whether it's a casual setting or a date night.