Autistic Perspectives on Correction: Reactions and Understanding
How autistic people feel about being corrected is a complex issue that largely depends on the context and method of correction. It is important to understand that individuals with autism may have varied reactions, with nuances that non-autistic individuals might not always grasp.
Understanding the Nuances of Correction
When corrected, autistic individuals may either accept the feedback positively or become upset, depending on how the feedback is delivered. The way a non-autistic person (NT) frames their correction can significantly impact the autistic individual's receptiveness.
Autistic individuals often struggle with social customs and may be sensitive to disrespect or patronization. Therefore, it is crucial that NTs approach corrections with respect and understanding, acknowledging the unique ways in which autistic people perceive and engage with the world.
The Impact of Misunderstanding and Misphrasing
Some autistic individuals, while open to guidance, may become frustrated when corrections are not tailored to their specific needs. A lack of respect or the perception of patronization can lead to significant upset. As one individual shared, ‘I improve but I will not stand for pretentiousness or patronizing attitudes. The very worst thing you can do to me is try to patronize me.’ It is essential to approach these corrections with humility and a genuine desire to support, rather than to maintain a social hierarchy based on perceived superiority.
How Non-Autistic Individuals React to Corrections
The more common question is how NTs react when corrected by autistic individuals. As a personal example, the author's stepmother did not take it well. This highlights the importance of mutual respect and awareness in interactions between autistic individuals and NTs.
Accepting Mistakes and Maintaining Dignity
A certain degree of vulnerability and the willingness to be corrected are part of the autistic experience. However, it is equally important that when feedback is provided, it is delivered with the recognition that autistic individuals often process information differently. Corrections that are overly critical or dismissive can be alienating, whereas ones that are respectful and supportive can be enlightening.
Lived Experiences and Corrective Feedback
The issue of correction also involves understanding the lived experiences of both the person being corrected and the person doing the correcting. Autistic individuals are capable of comprehending their own experiences, but NTs might not always take the time to understand or consider the autistic person's unique perspective.
Unfortunately, many autistic individuals receive feedback that does not account for their insights or struggles, leading to frustration and a sense of invalidation. In contrast, instances where corrections are made with the understanding and respect for the individual's viewpoint can lead to growth and mutual understanding.
The Need for Empathy and Respect in Corrections
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to correction for autistic individuals. It requires a deep level of empathy and an acknowledgment of the individual's unique experience. Paternalistic attitudes or a sense of superiority can be detrimental to the relationship and the learning process.
By approaching corrections with a focus on understanding and mutual respect, both autistic individuals and NTs can create a more open and supportive environment. This means being open to feedback, understanding different ways of processing information, and always aiming to foster a sense of equality and respect in interactions.
Thus, while there is no typical reaction to correction, fostering a culture of respect and understanding is vital for an inclusive and supportive community. Autistic individuals are capable of growth and learning but need to be acknowledged and respected in the process.