In those first moments when you realize it’s splitsville, any number of thoughts go buzzing through your head.

Maybe you wonder whether you could have done something different. 

Maybe you had been thinking it had been coming. 

Maybe it’s a wake up call that you’ve been taking them for granted. 

But do you really want your ex back?

Then one of the first things you’ll have to do is take responsibility.

You see, if you simply blame your ex for everything that went wrong in your relationship, you’ll never get anywhere.

There’s a very simple equation. 

If you find fault in others for your circumstances, then you are a victim.  And there’s one thing that victims have in common:  they are powerless to change things.  If you take responsibility for what has happened, then you acknowledge your power and your ability to change things.

Does that mean you have to say that your ex never did anything wrong, or say that they are (or were) perfect? 

Absolutely not. 

However, even in those things they’ve done that were wrong, you were a player — something you did, something you said, some way you acted played a role.

What you need to do is ferret out what that was.

This isn’t supposed to be an exercise in self-pity, or in making you feel bad about yourself.  Far from it.  But it is part of the process that you need to go through in order to set things aright. 

When you acknowledge your part — no matter how small, it’s much easier for the other person to admit their part, as well. 

And when you can both be that transparent, that vulnerable to one another — forgiveness can happen.

Discovering how to empower yourself so that you and your ex can grow back together is what my Ex Back System is all about.  You can get it now, and start that process — before it’s too late.

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