But yes it is true, I have been dumped. I have been dumped on harder than a cow pasture in Texas, on a late July morning, after feeding time. Now that you have that picture branded into your brain, I will tell you a few things I have learned. All women are crazy!!! No, just kidding.

What I have learned is not all women are going to love you. As hard as that is to believe for some of you; it’s true. There is a thing called chemistry, and it is tougher to figure out in life than it was in high school. There are some women you have it with and some you don’t. That’s just a part of life. Something else I have learned is all women are different. Not a single one of them are the same.

Look I know you’ve heard that saying “all women are the same”. That is a lie my friend, and if you really believe it, you will always be dumped by women. So don’t ever treat them all the same or ever call them the same name. For some reason they just don’t like that. Now, back to the women are crazy part. No not all women are crazy.

But brother, there are some that are as loony as the cartoons we use to watch when we were kids. I say this because I have rode that crazy train, and I don’t ever want to buy that ticket again. You have heard that saying “you don’t know what you have till it’s gone”. Well, when dating a crazy woman you know what you got and you can’t wait till it’s gone. Out of the few things I have learned from women who have dumped me … the most important thing is… I have to thank all the women who have dumped me, every single one of them. Because if it wasn’t for the ones I couldn’t please Or the one’s that were just plain nutty, I would have never found the one I have been happily married to for six years now.

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So you’re desperate to get your ex back. You know you had great sex with your ex, sex was never the problem, and your ex has been giving you signals that they want to sleep with you and you think it’s a great idea.

Well, I’ll have those answers for you in just a second.

Before I talk about sex with your ex let me tell you a bit about me.

Quite a few years ago now I was madly in love with the woman of my dreams who had totally changed my life. I had never been in love before and I followed her around like a puppy dog. She was it for me and I realised pretty fast that I was a goner.

Then one day she said to me

“I’m Just Not In Love With You Anymore, Brian”.

My whole world exploded.

• I couldn’t eat.
• I couldn’t sleep.
• I couldn’t work.

I couldn’t function in my day to day life.

I begged her to take me back, I pleaded with her to take me back and nothing worked. And then one day I woke up and something changed in me. I realised I was a pretty cool person and found the self-dignity that I’d been lacking since the break up.

Which reminds me of your question about having sex with your ex….To have sex with your ex or not — that is the question.

You feel that the physical intimacy will make them fall in love with you again.

I’m going to be a bit in your face now and tell you that no it won’t. You’ll become a convenient doorstop for them to turn to whenever they feel horny.

They know the sex was great. They want to have sex with you. But just because they want to sleep with you doesn’t mean that they want to be committed to you.

I counsel people every day about getting their ex back and I caution people about doing this time and time again. And when the situation comes up and they say no they contact me and thank me for helping them to make the right decision.

This is where building up your dignity comes it. And with my girlfriend, yeah I won her back — we’re now married with three kids and madly in love.

How Did I Manage To Do It?

After speaking to people who were going through a similar thing and who had gotten their relationship back I realized there was a pattern to what they did. So I created a system.

Since it worked so well for me and I became so happy I wanted to share it with others so they could download it and heal their broken hearts too.

The question though is will my system work for you?  Look, everyone’s different, and perhaps it may not work for you? But what if it does? I encourage you to check it out at Ex Back System?
Can you really get your ex back with The Ex Back System?

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Best of luck with getting your ex back. I’m rooting for you

– Brian

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Okay, you’ve gone through a break up.

But who has ever learnt how to act throughout a break up?

No-one teaches that stuff at school and because of that more often than not mistakes are made that often ring the permanent end of the relationship when it’s possible that if done the right way reconciliation could have been the end result.

So here are my top 25 mistakes that are usually made after a break up.

Mistake #1 – Allowing Your Ex To Totally Control Your Life

You and your ex may not even be aware that they are doing this or that you are actually allowing your ex to do this but after your break up you gut reaction is to totally analyse virtually every facet of your relationship and your break up to the verge of driving yourself nuts.

That’s not going to achieve anything and will only keep you stuck in the healing process.

Mistake #2 – Staying Friends With Your Ex

Many brokenhearted people stay friends with the ex for one sole reason – in the hope that one day they’ll realize that they’re really meant to be together.

WRONG.  Once you get set in the friend trap it’s very hard to get out of and it’s not something I recommend.

Mistake #3 – Bombarding Your Ex With Text Messages

Basically you’re not leaving your ex alone because you’re not wanting them to get on with their life without you.

This is one of the worst things you can do because often all it does is ensure that they’ve made the right decision not being with you right now.

Mistake #4 -Firing Off Angry Emails To Your Ex

As above, when you make this mistake you are venting on your ex angry at the pain that they’ve caused you.

THIS IS A NO-NO because all it will do is drive potentially a permanent wedge between you and will ensure your ex moves on real fast.

Mistake #5 -Firing Off Desperate Emails To Your Ex

This mistake is different to the one in #5 because rather than being angry you’re being desperate.  You’re acting pretty wimpy trying to get your ex to understand how much they’ve broken your heart and how much you need them in your life.

When you behave in this way you’re acting high maintenance and also way too desperate and that is NOT going to be attractive to your ex!

Mistake #6 -Ringing Your Ex Around The Clock

Let’s face it, you’re not ringing them up with good intentions – you’re ringing them up because you want to know where they are, are they home, who are they with, is someone at home with them?

This kind of harassing behaviour could end up with you being served with an AVO so hold off, this is not the way to get your ex’s attention!

Mistake #7 -Stalking Your Ex Regularly At Places Where They Hang Out

Right, all of a sudden you have this insane desire to just be wherever your ex goes — because if you aren’t there how are they ever going to think about you now that you are no longer together, right??

WRONG!  Not only will this not look like a coincidence but it will really put your ex off, it will put your friends off and your ex’s friends off and you could end up with a nice little visit from a policeman!

Mistake #8 – Lending Your Ex Money

So you’re throwing good money after bad at your ex because you believe this way you’ll be able to stay in contact with your ex and they’ll “owe you”.

WRONG AGAIN.  You’re setting yourself for not only an emotional fall but a financial fall here….Once your ex knows they can come to you as their automatic ATM they’ll be feeding you with lies and crap to make you feel that you’re special to them…..but there will always be a BUT!

Mistake #9 -Staying Friends With Your Ex’s Family

While there’s nothing wrong with being on friendly terms with your ex’s family, if you suddenly start hanging out with them in the hope of accidentally bumping into your ex then that’s not a good thing.

Mistake #10 -Trying To Make Your Ex Jealous

The key to making someone jealous is NOT making it obvious.  However, many people unfortunately aren’t very good at this and make it real clear when they have their cousin’s best friend from interstate playing their instant love interest when they come into town on a quick visit.

You’ll actually have much better luck by moving on with your life and not being afraid to meet new people.

Mistake #11 -Having Sex With Your Ex

Yep, I had a fellow email me recently saying we’ve just broken up and we’re seeing each other tomorrow to have sex, is that okay?

Why would you think that’s okay?

I mean, if you want to be your ex’s boyfriend or girlfriend you have got to stop acting like their girlfriend or boyfriend when you’re no longer in a relationship with them — otherwise what incentive will they ever have to get back together with you.

Mistake #12 – Constantly Asking Your Ex For A Second Chance

You can’t cope without your ex, that’s clear, but you don’t need to make it constantly obvious to your ex all the time.

While that will certainly stroke their ego it will also drive them probably totally crazy so lay low and you’ll achieve much better results.

Mistake #13 -Bad Mouthing Your Ex to Your Family And Friends

Unless you plan on never getting back together with your ex don’t talk badly about him or her to everyone close to you.  And definitely don’t reveal some juicy tidbits that your ex would die if she knew you’d told them.

You’ve got to think of the big picture here….Your ex will never come back to you unless she’s 100 percent comfortable in doing so.

Mistake #14 – Bad Mouthing Your Ex To Their Family And Friends

It applies even more so to the friends and family of your ex.  Don’t ever think for a moment that they’ll keep their conversations with your ex private from them.

If you bad mouth her you’re going to not only get your ex’s hackles off side but also those of their friends and family!

Mistake #15 -Throwing Pity Parties

Another desperate effort to get back together – making your ex feel so sorry for you….some people even dare to say that they’ll kill themselves if they don’t get back together with you.

Not only is that blackmail that’s totally childish and an unfair kind of pressure to put onto your ex — and your relationship, even if you got back together, would have low chances of success!

Mistake #16 – Driving Your Friends And Family Insane By Always Talking About Your Ex

Okay this is going to hurt a little but you did have a life before your ex – and guess what — you managed to actually carry some interesting conversations before you met your ex.  So don’t drive your friends and family totally nuts and isolate yourselves from people who really care about you.

Mistake #17 – Coming Across As Needy And Clingy To Your Ex

This may be your gut reaction but all this behaviour is going to do is reinforce your ex’s desire not to be with you because you’re so high maintenance.

Mistake #18 -Giving Threats And Ultimatums

You’re desperate and totally acting irrationally and all you want is your pain to go away so you’ll do just about anything to get your ex back.

Dishing out threats and ultimatums isn’t going to bring you a happy ending so behave with self-dignity instead and you’ll be amazed at the difference.

Mistake #19  -Being Vengeful

You’re angry and you want them to HURT so you’re gonna pay them back, right??

WRONG!  You’ve got to think long term here…..that is going to not only infuriate your ex but everyone they know and could also land you in a lot of trouble with the law!

Mistake #20 -Making False Promises That You’ll Change

Okay, we all have some little things that we could probably improve about ourselves and some of these may be quite realistic….however, others don’t even bother.

While it’s possible to spruce yourself up a little there’s no use pretending to be someone you’re not because your armour will come off when you least expect it and you’ll be on your own again anyway.

Mistake #21 -Blogging About Your Break up On Social Networking Sites Like Twitter, Facebook and MySpace

It’s easy to write bad things about someone when you’re not looking at them face to face.

But in this age of web 2.0 you’ve got to realize that some things must be private for everyone’s benefit….So be careful about what you say about your ex on social sites – you could even be liable for defamation if you’re not careful – so instead control your emotions and go out with friends.

Mistake #22 – Not Changing all Your Internet Passwords That Your Ex May Have Known

You shared everything with your ex…you may have even shared your banking information, your internet passwords to certain sites and many private things you wouldn’t dare share with anyone else.

So if you have or even if you’re not sure you may be better advised to create new logins/passwords/pin numbers to ensure your long term identity and safety.

Mistake #23 – Trying To Get Over Your Break  Up On Your Own

One of the reasons why people get “stuck” so long suffering from a break up is that they try and do it all on their own.

People just aren’t taught as a young person how to do this and that’s why it’s always advisable to get some help from a helpful third party who knows what you’re going through.

Mistake #24 – Trying to Get Your Ex Back On Your Own

As above, getting over your break up is only one part of your hurdle.  You’ve got to process it, heal from it, and move on and only then can you pave the way to get your ex back in your life in a way that you have the best chance at reconciliation.

If you’re really broken hearted without your ex and are desperate for a second chance than don’t risk it all on a wing and a prayer….there’s genuine help, support and advice available if you know where to look!  Click here to get that support you’ve been missing to help you get your ex back.

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If you’ve just gone through a break up here is proven advice on getting an ex back – no matter why you broke up.Have you recently gone through a very painful break up that you didn’t see coming?

Chances are you’re still feeling shell shocked and asking yourself agonizing questions such as what if this and what if that.

That’s perfectly normal behaviour.  But I want you to take a deep breath for a moment and step back from how you’re feeling because no matter why you broke up your chances of reconciliation is better than you think.

Here are a few things that you need to do.

First off, your emotions are running high and you may want to vent off all your anger on your ex.  This is what usually happens after a break up.  This is when an argument happens and your ex feels right in making the decision to break up with you.

If you’re feeling too emotional and out of control then you need to stop all contact with your ex — but only temporarily.  This is not easy to do but is the only way you’re going to have a chance at reconciliation.

You need to appreciate that even though your ex isn’t in love with you right now there is STILL love there in their heart for YOU.   Rather than push them away with your actions you need to remind them of the love they have for you.

To sub-consciously remind them of their love for you need to follow certain steps (kind of like instructions for putting a toy together).  There are instructions in place for a reason – because they work and are the fastest way to get the results you want.

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Proven Advice To Get Your Ex Back

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These “get-your-ex-back” guide tips are the starting points for learning how to reconcile with ex spouses, fiancés or lovers.  You may be surprised to find that they are mostly focused on you, and not on your ex.  There’s a good reason for that.  You can change yourself much faster than you can change your ex.  So if you really want to get back together as quickly as possible, pay attention to the advice that follows.

1.  Accept the breakup for now.  It takes two people to make a relationship work, but it only takes one to break up.  You can’t force someone to want to be with you.  And if you force someone to stay by playing tricks like hiding car keys or controlling the bank account, you will only create misery and hostility.

If your partner wants to split, it’s best to just let go for now, and for you to behave as civilly as possible.  Don’t beg for them to stay.  Don’t throw a tantrum (or dishes).  Don’t make a scene (save the hysterical crying for after you lock the door behind them).  Understanding how to get your ex back using attraction rather than force is the key.  Learn to give your partner some time and space to start to miss you.

2.  Build up your own self-esteem.  Break ups can be devastating to self esteem, especially if you’re the one who got dumped.  The tricky part here is to be honest with yourself about your shortcomings, without wallowing in self pity because you’re now alone.  If you know deep down that your sloppy behavior around the house contributed to your breakup, don’t beat yourself up about what you ‘should have done’.   Instead, start practicing the new habits you want right away.  Acknowledging your part on the break up and taking action to change your own behavior will give you an immediate boost of empowerment and self esteem.

3.  Make a point of starting to date again.  The reason behind this is to distract yourself from obsessing about your ex – NOT to try to make your ex jealous (although that could happen, and even work in your favor).  Use the dating to meet new people, try new things and book up your calendar so that you don’t have endless days and nights with nothing to do but think about but how much you miss your ex and wish you could get back together.  Instead, use this time to get out of your rut and become a more interesting person.

Now that you have some ideas about what to do after a break up, find out about a step-by-step get-your-ex-back guide to get you started down the road to reconciliation.  Visit http://ExBackSystem.com to find out more.

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In those first moments when you realize it’s splitsville, any number of thoughts go buzzing through your head.

Maybe you wonder whether you could have done something different. 

Maybe you had been thinking it had been coming. 

Maybe it’s a wake up call that you’ve been taking them for granted. 

But do you really want your ex back?

Then one of the first things you’ll have to do is take responsibility.

You see, if you simply blame your ex for everything that went wrong in your relationship, you’ll never get anywhere.

There’s a very simple equation. 

If you find fault in others for your circumstances, then you are a victim.  And there’s one thing that victims have in common:  they are powerless to change things.  If you take responsibility for what has happened, then you acknowledge your power and your ability to change things.

Does that mean you have to say that your ex never did anything wrong, or say that they are (or were) perfect? 

Absolutely not. 

However, even in those things they’ve done that were wrong, you were a player — something you did, something you said, some way you acted played a role.

What you need to do is ferret out what that was.

This isn’t supposed to be an exercise in self-pity, or in making you feel bad about yourself.  Far from it.  But it is part of the process that you need to go through in order to set things aright. 

When you acknowledge your part — no matter how small, it’s much easier for the other person to admit their part, as well. 

And when you can both be that transparent, that vulnerable to one another — forgiveness can happen.

Discovering how to empower yourself so that you and your ex can grow back together is what my Ex Back System is all about.  You can get it now, and start that process — before it’s too late.

Want to know more … just click here.

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Thought you had a fixed social calendar for the holidays??

If you recently  broke up, you may now be at loose ends. 

Let’s face it, when you are in a relationship, holidays require careful scheduling to jam as many important visits to friends and relatives as possible.  More often, you make compromises, some events are left out, with decisions often painfully made.

So, after all that hard work, setting up the events on your social calendar — now what?

The winter holidays — whether you celebrate Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanzaa or the Winter Solstice — usually mean spending time with close relatives.

Who do you go see, now?

What do you do?

No doubt, sharing the Holidays creates special kinds of memories.  It brings remembrance of previous Holidays. Sometimes it’s the only time that you have arranged to see certain people during the year. 

Without your ex, looking forward to the Holidays may seem like an invitation to loneliness.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Here are some things that you can do, and build your own set of special memories. 

You can spend some special time with yourself, working on making you a better person.  We can all use that, right? 

One friend of mine spent a Christmas Eve going through photographs — something she’d long delayed in doing.  So many thoughts and memories swarmed through her mind that she finally pulled out a journal, and started writing them down.

There were thoughts about the people she loved, about what she thought she was doing in her life, what her purpose was.  She put these ideas together and came to some conclusions — conclusions that she felt she would not have made at any other time.  And commitments.

She tells me it was an emotional evening. 

Sometimes she broke it up to take a short walk.  She would notice things that she normally didn’t take such time to notice — how the various houses were decorated — or not.

But it opened new ways of thinking and feeling — ways that helped her to re-build her life, and eventually get her ex back.

But let’s think of some of the other possibilities…

As I mentioned in the beginning, being in a relationship usually means turning down one or more conflicting invitations.  Now that you are by yourself, call those folks up.  Just call them up and say “Hey, my plans have changed and I was wondering…do you still have a place for me?”

You can explain that it’s just you, and not you and your ex.  Many people love to include in their life the people who are feeling alone, lost and maybe even unloved.  It’s part of the feelings that arise for many people during the Holiday Season.

If travel arrangements were required,  it’s probably too late to get good airline deals.  (Though, if you have the time, look at different alternate travel methods — driving, hopping on a train — or even finding share-a-rides on CraigsList might make the travel still possible. You can make it an adventure!)

What if accepting previously turned down invitations doesn’t fit?

Consider this:  spend some time volunteering.  There are many people who are alone, and have no relatives.  Whether it’s helping at the local “soup kitchen” or the local food bank, your efforts are much appreciated.  I can remember attending a luncheon at a Senior Citizens’ residence, and how happy it made the senior citizens I ate with, and it gave me such a sense of unique warmth, I remember it fondly to this day.

In the meantime, if you’ve got my Ex Back System, keep working the system and reading the e-mails I’m sending you.  If not, and your heart is breaking … why not get it today?

Brian Bold

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Now we are in the “Holiday Season.”  An eventful time, filling calendars with numerous occasions.  Thanksgiving was last weekend in the United States — the only sanctioned 2 day holiday in the country.  Occurring on Thursday and Friday, it prompts many people to travel for holiday re-unions for what is, in effect, a “four day weekend.”  In fact, the days in and around Thanksgiving find more people traveling than at any other time.

College students frequently return home.  And for those who now find themselves returning to their parents’ home after their first extended time away, it can be a time of unpleasant surprises.

And, since I help people with their relationships, you can probably guess what that unpleasant surprise is:  a breakup.  In fact, if the requests for my help are any barometer, it may be the biggest breakup time ever.  While the romance celebration day — Valentine’s Day — is a little over 60 days away now, this much unheralded event has a place on any relationship consultant’s calendar: “Turkey Drop.”

You can even find the term commemorated in the Urban Dictionary.

The basic “turkey drop” occurs among high school sweethearts who have gone off to College in different locations — not seeing their sweetheart from the time they left for school until the Thanksgiving holiday. 

With all the new events and experiences around College, that intimate association with another — someone to share all these exciting happenings with — has gone.  New friends, new experiences, new ideas — there’s so much to share, and simply not enough time to share those life-changing events between the classes and the studies.

And the fabric of the relationship is slowly eaten away.  No one to share a celebratory hug when you get an “A”; no one to put their arms around you in consolation; no one to just “be a quiet presence” while putting in hours of study.

After all, it’s shared memories that help to create a relationship.

While coming out of college freshman experiences, “turkey drop” occurs among others, as well. If the relationship seems shaky, when do you decide to break up?  Breaking up just before Christmas seems like a cowardly thing to do, then there is New Year’s and, like I said, Valentine’s Day.  So, for some, it seems to be the perfect time to break up — and still have time to find someone to celebrate the following holidays with.

Did you breakup over Thanksgiving? 

Is your heart breaking?

That’s why I created the “Ex Back System” — to help people like you.  While I sincerely hope you don’t need it, it’s there if you need it.

Click here to get some advice on reversing your breakup, especially if you just experienced a turkey drop!

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